If You Have Only One Prayer: The Gratitude Attitude, 2018 Version

Issue 75 — November 18, 2018

Dr. Nancy O’Reilly, founder of the Women Connect 4 Good Foundation (and in full disclosure, board chair of Take The Lead) sounded exhausted when I called to ask how she and her horses were in the latest California disaster that looked on television like the fires of Hell.

“It all depends on the wind,” she said, “Which way it blows the flames.”

That could be a metaphor for life.

Her community had only recently begun to recover from the mudslides that destroyed many homes earlier this year. Hers was spared but she spent weeks under mandatory evacuation at that time. And now this.

Between the devastating fires burning in California and a wicked winter storm that paralyzed New York, causing accidents and deaths, it’s easy to feel like the world is in chaos, because it is. These are natural disasters to be sure, though due in no small part to human behavior that defies Mother Nature.

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It’s hard to feel thankful when you’re worried about friends and family, because even if yours are safe, you know others’ aren’t.

Yet even chaos caused by the worst of events brings out the best in us. Let us be thankful for that.

“If you only have one prayer, let it be “Thank you.”

One of my mentors, the late futurist Watts Walker, often paraphrased 13th century theologian Meister Eckhart, concluding his speeches with that phrase.

In that frame of mind, here are a few of my current “thank yous.”

First of all, I’m in awe of the firefighters who have risked their lives and are working round the clock to put the fires out and rescue those who can be saved. Here’s a tweet by Alyssa Milano that tells where we can donate to express our gratitude tangibly.

Thank you, Leadership Ambassador Felicia Davis. We launched the third cohort of 50 Women Can Change the World in Nonprofits last week in Phoenix. Always compelling, always intentional about how she wants to show up, Felicia is a trusted partner and is putting together incredibly talented and passionate changemakers for the 2018 cohort. There is still time to nominate someone or yourself to start the program in January if you weren’t able to attend last week, and both sections of the cohort will finish together February 27–28.

We were all grateful to Betsy Bombeck for providing tickets to At Wit’s End, a play about her late mother, the humorist Erma Bombeck, coiner of such pithy phrases as, “If life is a bowl of cherries, what am I doing in the pits?” and in the spirit of this season, “Thanksgiving dinners take eighteen hours to prepare. They are consumed in twelve minutes. Half-times take twelve minutes. This is not coincidence.”

L-R Heidi Stine, Gloria Feldt, Betsy Bombeck, Tammy Bosse after the performance of “At Wit’s End”

What woman can fail to be grateful to Gloria Steinem? I’m looking forward to our December 15 matinee benefit performance of the play about her starring Christie Lahti and featuring Steinem herself leading audience discussion. I’m grateful for the people who have taught me to ask directly, and I am going to ask you to go here to buy a ticket for yourself or if you can’t join us, buy one for a young woman so she can be inspired by Gloria Steinem.

Join us on December 15! Click here for tickets.

Because it’s important to laugh to stay sane in chaos, I’m thankful for Washington Post columnist Alexandra Petri who always nails our cultural ironies with her sarcastic humor. This week’s column was no exception, titled “I’m fine with women in power, just not this one specific woman currently in power.” How many times have you heard that line about, say, Nancy Pelosi or Hillary Clinton or — you fill in the blank. “Just not THAT woman.” Right.

I’ll be even more grateful when we get over thinking we aren’t being biased when we say that.

I’m grateful for all the women who have created or are creating the movements that can repair the world. From Steinem to Tarana Burke and #metoo to the suffragists who secured women’s right to vote, to birth control and Black Lives Matter, women have been at the forefront. It has been my honor throughout my career to stand with them on the frontlines for social justice. How many people get to make their life’s passion into their life’s work? For that I am profoundly grateful.

I’ll close with thanks to Joanne Tombrakos, whose “one Woman’s Eye” newsletter I read every week for its smart tips on how to manage your social media footprint, for this perfect quote about the cosmic importance of gratitude:

“When a person doesn’t have gratitude, something is missing in his or her humanity. A person can almost be defined by his or her attitude toward gratitude.” — Elie Wiesel

Wishing you and your dear ones a very Happy Thanksgiving.

And…Thank you.

GLORIA FELDT is the New York Times bestselling author of several books including No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power, a sought-after speaker and frequent contributor to major news outlets, and the Co-Founder and President of Take The Lead. People has called her “the voice of experience,” and among the many honors she has been given, Vanity Fair called her one of America’s “Top 200 Women Legends, Leaders, and Trailblazers,” and Glamour chose her as a “Woman of the Year.” As co-founder and president of Take The Lead, a leading women’s leadership nonprofit, her mission is to achieve gender parity by 2025 through innovative training programs, workshops, a groundbreaking 50 Women Can Change The World immersive, online courses, a free weekly newsletter, and events including a monthly Virtual Happy Hour program and a Take The Lead Day symposium that reached over 400,000 women globally in 2017.