Posts Tagged ‘No Excuses’
Countdown to Publication: Queries!
Goddess willing and the crick don’t rise, my long- delayed website—the one I’ve been angsting about on these pages for several weeks–will soft launch Friday 9/24 and be fully public by the date of my next newsletter blast 9/28. (If you want to sign up for my newsletter, by the way, just e-mail me.) Check back next week for the urls. (Hooray! Corks about to pop!)
Meanwhile…are you signed up for HARO? It stands for Help a Reporter Out. Three times a day, you get queries from a wide array of media outlets. It takes a bit of sifting through, but I’ve secured several worthwhile media opportunities, and connected with some terrific women’s topics reporters like Liz O’Donnell. You can also sign up as a journalist and issue queries for your articles, books, or blogs. Check it out.
Peter Shankman, who started HARO, usually ends his opening speil with “Queries!” And, SheWriters, my Countdown this week is all about my queries for you.
I’m creating a blog dedicated to discussing the “9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power” that I have written about in No Excuses. Will you help me prime the pump with your answers to my queries?
You can respond to any questions that resonate with you in comments section below. I’ll pop your comments onto my website as soon as it’s ready. Feel free to include a link to your book or website so I can help you spread your word(s) too.
Ready? Queries!
Read MoreKim’s Story: I’m Still a Feminist Dammit!
PunditMom Joanne Bamberger hosted a very fun get together for DC area bloggers last week. I had a chance to tell them about No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power and to ask for their publicity suggestions and their support in getting the word out. This guest post appeared Friday, September 17, 2010 Friday, September 17, 2010, on I’m Not the Nanny, a blog written by Thien-Kim aka Kim. I was so touched by it that I asked Kim if I could re-post her comments here on Heartfeldt. She kindly let me share her post with you.
In the midst of diapers and runny noses, sometimes I forget that a world outside of mothering exists. I have gone days without reading or watching the news. (Thank goodness Twitter keeps me in the loop.) Some days I don’t even try leaving my apartment. It doesn’t seem worth the fight to get the kids dressed and the snacks packed to go on a outing.
Those days I forget that I am more than a mother.
I forget about me.
Read MoreCountdown to Publication: Defining My Terms
My second in the “Countdown to Publication” series I’m writing for SheWrites.com. Any writers here? Tell me what you think below, but also please consider going to SheWrites.com and commenting on my post there. Join SheWrites.com while you’re at it!
Hi SheWriters-
I’m embarrassed to ask, but did you ever forget what’s in your own book between when you finished writing it and your first launch event?
I found I needed to reread No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How we Think About Power stem to stern before my first in-person media interview about it yesterday. I literally couldn’t remember the chapter titles, let alone the 9 Ways.
Last week I shared my website predicament. The central element of my marketing campaign was six weeks behind schedule, delaying my newsletter and much more. Quick update: as Deborah suggested, I employed power tool #3: use what you’ve got. I’m framing my first newsletter as a sneak preview, being honest that I don’t have it all together yet–but grateful for supportive friends and my passion for helping women lead unlimited lives. It’ll go out September 13. Meanwhile I’m using social media daily to build interest in the book.
It’s also time to focus on short lead media. By last Friday, my eyeballs felt like they were about to fall out from reviewing and adding to spreadsheets my publicist had sent. It hit me that pitching highest leverage media intensively and knowing deep in my bones what core messages I want to communicate to them will be infinitely more fruitful than trying to list and do everything that possibly could be done.
So what I want to share with you this week is the most important of all the 9 Ways: Power tool #2: Define your own terms—first, before others define you. This has profound implications for women and our relationship with power. Because whoever defines the terms usually wins the debate and determines what’s considered important in our personal lives, at work, and in the civic arena.
Read MoreNo Excuses (Well, Just a Few) Countdown to Publication
From now through my book launch Oct 5, I’m writing a weekly column for one of my favorite websites, SheWrites.com. If you are a woman who writes in any medium, do check out SheWrites for fantastic resources, inspiration, and support network. Here’s column #1:
Dear SheWriters.
As I start my Countdown, I’m incredibly grateful to each previous contributor for sharing your experiences generously, honestly, and sometimes humorously. I’ve been lounging around your pool of wisdom, absorbing tips from every column—Hope Edelman’s computer meltdown a year ago through Lori Tharps’ thrill at seeing her first novel on the shelves last week. Now I’m on the high board, about to plunge. Deep breath.
No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power took eighteen months of writing but a lifetime of learning on the frontlines. It’s about American women’s ambivalent relationship with power, why after almost two centuries of the women’s movement, 51 percent of the population holds only 18 percent of influential leadership positions in work and politics, with similar dynamics in personal relationships. There are many reasons why we’re still so far from parity, but there are no excuses any more. So, practical activist that I am, I set out to find inspiring women’s stories and to create the 9 Ways—specific “power tools”–women can use to lead unlimited lives.
Read MoreDon’t Think Like an Elephant
Recently I was at the SeeJaneDo conference where I heard this story. I was so moved by it that I immediately had to include it in my forthcoming book about women’s relationship with power–No Excuses, to be published in October–despite having already having turned in what were supposed to be the last changes.
Read MoreIt’s said that when a baby elephant is being trained, she is tied to a post almost immediately after birth. During the first few weeks of life, she attempts to break free of her restraints, but she’s not strong enough. So she comes to believe she can’t get away from what is holding her back even after she has grown large and plenty powerful to uproot the post entirely. As a consequence, even as an adult, she remains tied to the post due to an internally motivated behavior that is no longer rooted in external reality.
Share Your Power Tools Here!
Dear Powered Woman,
I am writing a book entitled No Excuses that explores women’s relationship with power and why this is the moment to use our “power-to” for good in life and leadership.
I have one chapter in that gives nine specific Power Tools women can use to make changes they want in their workplace, in politics or civic life, or in a personal relationship, with concrete examples of what has worked, or what you tried and it didn’t work but you learned from it.
The Power Tools are:
Know Your History (and you can shape your future)
Define the terms—first
Use what you’ve got
Carpe the chaos (chaos is opportunity)
Embrace controversy
Wear the shirt (of your convictions)
Create a movement
Employ every medium
Tell your story
It can be something large or small–they are all valid and important. You can also send photos or video for website use if you wish.
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