Are You Ready to Answer the Most Important Question for the Rest of Your Life?

Issue 178 — September 20, 2021

On a spectacular Arizona day in late January, 2020, a day when you can be lulled into thinking all’s right with the world, I was hiking with a friend. Then boom! I tripped on an unseen pebble, put my hand out to catch myself and knew immediately from the snap and the pain that I had broken my wrist. The first broken bone I’d ever had.

It’s never the mountains that trip you up. It’s the pebbles on the path.

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OFFICIAL BOOK LAUNCH! Barnes & Noble: New York, New York

The corks were really popping at the official book launch of No Excuses! The store was packed, and we had a lively panel discussion with young feminists talking about how they are integrating the 9 Ways into their lives. A big thank you to Jan Goldstoff for taking such lovely photos at the event, and to Shelby Knox for live tweeting the discussion.

Left: No Excuses officially launches! My reading at Barnes and Noble Lincoln Triangle in New York.

Center: (Left to right) author of Black Women’s Lives, Kristal Brent Zook; media commentator Keli Goff; and Feed Fund co-founder Lauren Bush share their stories and discuss the 9 Ways power tools with me at the launch of No Excuses, Barnes and Noble Lincoln Triangle on 10/5.

Right: Surrounded by fabulous young feminists: Elizabeth Camuti, Jamia Wilson, and Shelby Knox

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Countdown to Publication 7 Days Out: Greyhounds and Prelaunch Strategies

This was posted today at SheWrites.com as part of my Countdown to Publication series.

What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever done to sell your books?

I hadn’t ridden a Greyhound bus since I was 14, traveling across Texas with my friend Elsie to visit my grandmother. But there i was last Sunday, rolling along from Burlington VT to Boston because it was impossible to get to my meeting in Boston any other way today.

I squeezed in an appearance at the Burlington Book Fair yesterday. I didn’t quite “move a mountain of books” as Ric, the Fair’s ebullient organizer, had promised, but I spoke to a roomful of enthusiastic participants, signed a goodly number of books, and many of the women said they planned to visit my website to find out more about the 9 Ways. Plus the spirited conversation at last night authors dinner was great preparation for objections I’m sure to encounter when I talk publicly about women’s relationship with power and why I think women must change how we think about power in order to reach parity in any of our lifetimes. (Check out my book trailer to see stats that will set your hair on fire.)

I was fresh from my first book event back in Arizona, an elegant Northern Trust Bank book tea. It was the perfect cultivation event for their high net worth clients and ideal for me as the author because they buy books for attendees. I want more venues like that and am seeking contacts to pitch at other banks. Selling books in multiples is much more fruitful than one at a time.

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No Excuses (Well, Just a Few) Countdown to Publication

From now through my book launch Oct 5, I’m writing a weekly column for one of my favorite websites, SheWrites.com. If you are a woman who writes in any medium, do check out SheWrites for fantastic resources, inspiration, and support network. Here’s column #1:

Dear SheWriters.
As I start my Countdown, I’m incredibly grateful to each previous contributor for sharing your experiences generously, honestly, and sometimes humorously. I’ve been lounging around your pool of wisdom, absorbing tips from every column—Hope Edelman’s computer meltdown a year ago through Lori Tharps’ thrill at seeing her first novel on the shelves last week. Now I’m on the high board, about to plunge. Deep breath.

No Excuses: 9 Ways Women Can Change How We Think About Power took eighteen months of writing but a lifetime of learning on the frontlines. It’s about American women’s ambivalent relationship with power, why after almost two centuries of the women’s movement, 51 percent of the population holds only 18 percent of influential leadership positions in work and politics, with similar dynamics in personal relationships. There are many reasons why we’re still so far from parity, but there are no excuses any more. So, practical activist that I am, I set out to find inspiring women’s stories and to create the 9 Ways—specific “power tools”–women can use to lead unlimited lives.

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